Being other people's balancing soul

...came up today in a discussion with the ant:

"The maximum of of unbalance we can support in other people is our own amount of unbalance. More than that will frighten us." - by bob.

and

"We carry along this huge amount of inexplicable fears, no matter how brave we regularly are. Still, some overwhelming passions can make you forget about all fears and do astonishing things."- by the ant.

I missed the ant who can bring up such irresistible thoughts in herself and others.